We all have things that we are dealing with. Some of those things are small and then some of them are large. But those struggles can be a little easier when we just stop and take some simple steps. I would like to say that I discovered these a couple of weeks ago, but the truth is that the bible points out time and again these are steps that we should be taking.
You say WHAT there are steps that can help in the struggles of life? Yes there are steps that can bring peace and comfort in the middle of the struggle. I am in the middle of a struggle to get guardianship of my Mother that has Alzheimer’s but I have had roadblock, after roadblock because of her boyfriend. Just to understand he has been living with her for 15 years for free, so he is afraid he will lose a place to live. So because of his fear he has not been willing to work with my sister and I on appointments that we needed our Mother to go to.
My Mother is at a point where she is very confused and does not understand things, so someone has to make appointments and take her to all of them. It took 2 months before I was able to get her to a lawyer appointment, but I really just want you to understand some of the ongoing struggle. Two weeks ago my husband so kindly called to talk to her boyfriend and to see if he had made a doctor appointment for her that we needed, so that we could go to court for Guardianship. He said No, and she is not ready for that, and I am not going to do that to help you out.
When my husband got off the phone he looked at me and said he is not going to do anything to help you in this process. I looked at my husband and said we need to pray. He looked at me and said yes, like OK we will later on tonight. I again looked at him and said we need to stop and pray. My husband looks at me and said “Oh you mean now”. I said yes NOW, God knows our hearts and God knows the situation. This is something that we are unable to change, but God can change this situation. I said this needs to be Gods will not our will, even though we want the best for my Mother.
At that moment we stopped everything we were doing and got down on our knees. I prayed fervently and called out the truths of what God had shown me. But I said I surrender this to you Lord and I trust that you will take care of everything. I said Lord you know our hearts and I know you will do what is best in your plan for this situation.
The next day I was at a Youth Conference and the first speaker has a message about when Jesus walked on the water and Peter stepped out of the boat. Now I have heard these verses discussed in many different ways, but that night it was different. Jesus told the disciples to get in the boat and that he would meet them on the other side. Even though he was not in the boat he never said that he would not be with them. Suddenly I had an aha moment. You might say WHAT!!! Jesus had told me to get in the boat on this journey with my Mother, and he said that he had laid my path to walk. But he never said that it was all going to be easy, in fact the BIBLE says we will face trials and tribulations. But that does not mean that Jesus is not walking with us and it surely does not mean that he won’t be on the other side of the lake.
The rest of the weekend and into the next week I kept thinking about these things and I would continue to talk to God and reaffirm that I trusted that God had this situation with my Mother taken care of. Then less than 5 days later I get a message from my Mother’s boyfriend. He is being driven by fear which I know is not of God, but I know God allows confusion just like what God did with the Egyptians when the Israelite’s were fleeing Egypt. Suddenly he has made a doctor appointment for my Mother and he is desperate for me to go to court to get Guardianship for my Mother. In fact he was telling me I needed to go to court as soon as possible.
The hardest thing for many of us to do is to stop and surrender what ever is going on in our life. We want to help our kids find salvation, we want to see our families do better, the struggles of life are many. But what if you stop struggling and stressing about those things, you start getting on your knees and surrendering them to God. God knows your struggles, but if you are anything like me you want to fix things yourself. It can seem really hard to just stop and surrender. But I think that if we would all stop trying to fix things ourselves and instead we would get on our knees and surrender things to God we will see change. Stop trying to make everything our will and instead ask God to interject his will into our struggles. We may start to find peace and comfort. We may start to find out that life is not as much of a struggle. We may really discover what it means to rest in the Lord.